Very good read, written by a wife for wives, but, men, the same truth applies for us in our speech toward & about our spouses.
My mind flashed to a recent conversation with a friend about the common problem of husband-bashing in Christian women’s groups. I remembered a “Bible study” I once joined, excited for a chance to grow and make friends. I went for three weeks, each time hoping I was wrong about the women there, each time being proven right. Every Thursday morning this group of wives and mothers would gather, leave their children with the sitter, pour themselves coffee and put donuts on napkins, then they would sit next to each other and rip their husbands apart, one at a time.
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Excellent article. One of the things that I decided early in my marriage is that no third party would ever hear a criticism or put-down of my wife coming from me. She knows this, and it gives her a level of trust and security that can’t be beat. On the other hand, I’ve sat with clients in planning sessions where one spouse harshly criticizes the other spouse for their financial problems — with the other spouse sitting right there! After one such meeting, I remember thinking, “That marriage won’t last.” It didn’t. Very sad, and so easily avoidable.
Wise words, my friend! Well said.
Thank you very much for sharing!
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God. Family. Church. World. Doug Joseph is an ordained Christian pastor & presbyter, author of fiction & nonfiction.
My mind flashed to a recent conversation with a friend about the common problem of husband-bashing in Christian women’s groups. I remembered a “Bible study” I once joined, excited for a chance to grow and make friends. I went for three weeks, each time hoping I was wrong about the women there, each time being proven right. Every Thursday morning this group of wives and mothers would gather, leave their children with the sitter, pour themselves coffee and put donuts on napkins, then they would sit next to each other and rip their husbands apart, one at a time.
Excellent article. One of the things that I decided early in my marriage is that no third party would ever hear a criticism or put-down of my wife coming from me. She knows this, and it gives her a level of trust and security that can’t be beat. On the other hand, I’ve sat with clients in planning sessions where one spouse harshly criticizes the other spouse for their financial problems — with the other spouse sitting right there! After one such meeting, I remember thinking, “That marriage won’t last.” It didn’t. Very sad, and so easily avoidable.
Wise words, my friend! Well said.
Thank you very much for sharing!